Thank you for your thoughtful and intelligent review. We need more men like you, Walter! Men to stand up for women.
If men were assaulted and killed by partners as women have been for ages, they would undoubtedly be filled with rage. We have never taken away mens rights, but they monitor and remove ours whenever they are allowed. The most abused gender in the world are women and girls. They treat our bodies as if they own them, are gynecologists and medical experts who understand and possess the knowledge to make our decisions. We do not make decisions about their healthcare.
This administration has aggressively removed our rights with impunity. Including making changes to the definition of what constitutes sexual assault and domestic abuse. Making it harder to prosecute people while letting pedophiles go unpunished. We are an embarrassment on the world stage!
Reading this made me think about sitting beside my ex-husband with our granddaughter nearby while he suddenly started loudly calling Nancy Pelosi a pig in the middle of an ordinary conversation.
What hit me later wasn’t even the politics. It was the entitlement to force aggression, contempt and ugliness into the room and expect everyone else to absorb it quietly.
Years after leaving because of alcoholism and domestic violence, I realized I had spent decades normalizing behavior that always revolved around intimidation, dominance and emotional control.
That’s what your piece brought back to me — how easy it becomes for families, communities and even whole countries to quietly reorganize themselves around abusive behavior instead of confronting it.
So it’s not just the men who have to change and heal. We all do. It starts with naming it plainly, and that’s where your genius shines, Walter.
As I'm hearing my grandmother's "nice man" neighbor berate his wife. Yelling so loud I can hear him through his well-insulated house that I can hear the nastiness of his tone.
Paris Paloma's 'Labor' must hit nerves in you. It did in me and I'm not even straight and have never been beholden in marriage or trapped with children. The societal structure needs to be smashed.
💯%. The conversations I've had with white men have only further enraged me. "If they want my help, they need to be nice to me." is one answer I keep getting. We've ALWAYS been nice to you even when you don't deserve it.
"Black women are so nice to me. If other women want my help, they should treat me the way black women treat me."
😡🤬🤬 With deference out of fear of your venegful bullshit? Are you F***ING KIDDING ME? You DON'T treat black women well no matter how nice they are to you! You want all women to treat you as a savior when you hurt them with your actions, your rhetoric, your holier-than-thou vision of yourself?
The war is here, at home, and you are the enemy of women.
If rationalizations were kW of power, we’d be fossil fuel free in weeks. If reading this makes men think ANYTHING other than “he’s right about this” they are part of the problem. The bar has been set so damn low for them
Thx for this punch in the face, and I mean that in a positive way. As a writer, I couldn't help but take your words, copy, and paste them into a document, and insert the words "white people" in place of "American men." It works about 99% of the time. I agree with you 100% about American men. My only tweak would be that it be *white* American men because they are the majority of the problem here in these United States.
I do a lot of articles on white supremacy too. It's interesting how using "white men" instead changes the response. People are giving me clues to their psyche in the comments 🤣. Thank you!
Yes, I have read your material before and have always enjoyed reading your essays and the comments from those that follow you. My personal inclination is to say, cis white males, though I know that your piece specifically leaned on American men, (though white people also works —too well). I do agree that white men, specifically white American men, have an entitlement issue that our society has created since the dawn of mankind.
Religion, which has seemingly replaced the common sense of many, has been a flaming red flag that has been ignored as a core issue of our sickness. Many of societies' beliefs that men are somehow intrinsically bestowed with superiority, and therefore should be the only leaders is in-sane, from some belief, and religiously promoted as truth vs, oh I don't know, reality? Beliefs are what has gotten us here. Trad wives and toxic masculinity. Trump and Jeffrey Epstein. It's a future documentary in the making. Thanks for your thoughtful pieces and insights. I appreciate you. ✊🏼
I'm sad for my daughters who must wade thru the large dating pool of the ego-driven, misogynistic degenerates you describe. Ugh! Walter you are the diamond in a pile of manure.
I love this! And the note about “not all men.” Because while not all men do these deeds— ALL men are complicit because they don’t stand up to stop the deeds. I feel this and even have to look at my husband through a different lens.
Thank you for the bottom of my heart for your openness, honesty and authenticity. As a 71 year old woman I feel seen by your words. 💕
May the good men like you rise to the top like cream
The good men help the women ascend (not that they need the help)
Yeah we do. For precisely the reasons you stated. Thank you for your support.
Thank you for your thoughtful and intelligent review. We need more men like you, Walter! Men to stand up for women.
If men were assaulted and killed by partners as women have been for ages, they would undoubtedly be filled with rage. We have never taken away mens rights, but they monitor and remove ours whenever they are allowed. The most abused gender in the world are women and girls. They treat our bodies as if they own them, are gynecologists and medical experts who understand and possess the knowledge to make our decisions. We do not make decisions about their healthcare.
This administration has aggressively removed our rights with impunity. Including making changes to the definition of what constitutes sexual assault and domestic abuse. Making it harder to prosecute people while letting pedophiles go unpunished. We are an embarrassment on the world stage!
So we need to rise up. There is no other option. #matriarchynow
Yup
100 percent. I’m 71 and fought for many rights that are now being taken away. It breaks my heart!
I love this article! Absolutely love it :)
Thank you! I wrote it not too long after we talked! Maybe do a video talking about how great it is 🤣🤣🤣
I would totally watch it Walter 😂
Yes, though Afghan men are pretty bad too. I sometimes feel that is what American men aspire to.
Thank you Walter, exactly!
Reading this made me think about sitting beside my ex-husband with our granddaughter nearby while he suddenly started loudly calling Nancy Pelosi a pig in the middle of an ordinary conversation.
What hit me later wasn’t even the politics. It was the entitlement to force aggression, contempt and ugliness into the room and expect everyone else to absorb it quietly.
Years after leaving because of alcoholism and domestic violence, I realized I had spent decades normalizing behavior that always revolved around intimidation, dominance and emotional control.
That’s what your piece brought back to me — how easy it becomes for families, communities and even whole countries to quietly reorganize themselves around abusive behavior instead of confronting it.
So it’s not just the men who have to change and heal. We all do. It starts with naming it plainly, and that’s where your genius shines, Walter.
Thank you Joyce! Your comments are always so profound!
Thank you for the writing prompts, Walter. 🫶
As I'm hearing my grandmother's "nice man" neighbor berate his wife. Yelling so loud I can hear him through his well-insulated house that I can hear the nastiness of his tone.
Paris Paloma's 'Labor' must hit nerves in you. It did in me and I'm not even straight and have never been beholden in marriage or trapped with children. The societal structure needs to be smashed.
https://youtu.be/jvU4xWsN7-A?si=9X0c3TKVvzu6TnrR
Labour
Why are you hanging on
So tight
To the rope that I’m hanging from
Off this island
This was an escape plan
Carefully timed it
So let me go
And dive into the waves below
Who tends the orchards?
Who fixes up the gables
Emotional torture
From the head of your high table
Who fetches the water
From the rocky mountain spring
And walk back down again
To feel your words and their sharp sting
And I’m getting fucking tired
The capillaries in my eyes are bursting
If our love died, would that be the worst thing?
For somebody I thought was my saviour
You sure make me do a whole lot of labour
The calloused skin on my hands is cracking
If our love ends, would that be a bad thing?
And the silence haunts our bed chamber
You make me do too much labour
Apologies from my tongue
Never yours
Busy lapping from flowing cup
And stabbing with your fork
I know you’re a smart man
And weaponise
The false incompetence
It’s dominance under guise
If we had a daughter
I’d watch and could not save her
The emotional torture
From the head of your high table
She’d do what you taught her
She’d meet the same cruel fate
So now I’ve gotta run
So I can undo this mistake
At least I’ve gotta try
The capillaries in my eyes are bursting
If our love died, would that be the worst thing?
For somebody I thought was my saviour
You sure make me do a whole lot of labour
The calloused skin on my hands is cracking
If our love ends, would that be a bad thing?
And the silence haunts our bed chamber
You make me do too much labour
All day, every day, therapist, mother, maid
Nymph then virgin, nurse then a servant
Just an appendage, live to attend him
So that he never lifts a finger
24/7 baby machine
So he can live out his picket fence dreams
It’s not an act of love if you make her
You make me do too much labour
Credits:
Director: Adam Othman
Producer: Giulia Lopes
Director of Photography: Theo Brinch
1st AC: Rafal Rakoczy
Gaffer: Will Jessel
BTS: Jamal Thomas
Art Director: Paris Paloma
Art Assistant: Morgan Bull
Actors
Paris Paloma
Henry Hayward
#parispaloma
Brilliant. Not just American men
ICE. Men kidnapping and raping and torturing human beings. Men who didn’t protest ICE are just as bad.
💯%. The conversations I've had with white men have only further enraged me. "If they want my help, they need to be nice to me." is one answer I keep getting. We've ALWAYS been nice to you even when you don't deserve it.
"Black women are so nice to me. If other women want my help, they should treat me the way black women treat me."
😡🤬🤬 With deference out of fear of your venegful bullshit? Are you F***ING KIDDING ME? You DON'T treat black women well no matter how nice they are to you! You want all women to treat you as a savior when you hurt them with your actions, your rhetoric, your holier-than-thou vision of yourself?
The war is here, at home, and you are the enemy of women.
End rant. For now.
These dudes are so touchy and emotional. They should smile more.
Ikr??? 🤣😂😝
“sweetheart you’re too pretty to be so sullen”
Dude, GFY.
Love it. Thank you.
Thank you Walter for your support! Great article!
Thanks Freya!
If rationalizations were kW of power, we’d be fossil fuel free in weeks. If reading this makes men think ANYTHING other than “he’s right about this” they are part of the problem. The bar has been set so damn low for them
There is an indoctrinated knee jerk reaction among American men to dismiss this article... and that's the problem
Good men and good women are good because they lift each other and are not condescending. Thanks, Walter!
Thx for this punch in the face, and I mean that in a positive way. As a writer, I couldn't help but take your words, copy, and paste them into a document, and insert the words "white people" in place of "American men." It works about 99% of the time. I agree with you 100% about American men. My only tweak would be that it be *white* American men because they are the majority of the problem here in these United States.
I do a lot of articles on white supremacy too. It's interesting how using "white men" instead changes the response. People are giving me clues to their psyche in the comments 🤣. Thank you!
Yes, I have read your material before and have always enjoyed reading your essays and the comments from those that follow you. My personal inclination is to say, cis white males, though I know that your piece specifically leaned on American men, (though white people also works —too well). I do agree that white men, specifically white American men, have an entitlement issue that our society has created since the dawn of mankind.
Religion, which has seemingly replaced the common sense of many, has been a flaming red flag that has been ignored as a core issue of our sickness. Many of societies' beliefs that men are somehow intrinsically bestowed with superiority, and therefore should be the only leaders is in-sane, from some belief, and religiously promoted as truth vs, oh I don't know, reality? Beliefs are what has gotten us here. Trad wives and toxic masculinity. Trump and Jeffrey Epstein. It's a future documentary in the making. Thanks for your thoughtful pieces and insights. I appreciate you. ✊🏼
Thank you Stacey, I appreciate you too!
I'm sad for my daughters who must wade thru the large dating pool of the ego-driven, misogynistic degenerates you describe. Ugh! Walter you are the diamond in a pile of manure.
Thanks Julie. I'm scared for my daughters too.
I love this! And the note about “not all men.” Because while not all men do these deeds— ALL men are complicit because they don’t stand up to stop the deeds. I feel this and even have to look at my husband through a different lens.
Thank you for the bottom of my heart for your openness, honesty and authenticity. As a 71 year old woman I feel seen by your words. 💕
That's such a lovely comment!
It is an awesome post!
amen, brother