I can speak as someone that was abused by a relative at 16 while my dad was in a VA hospital in Memphis dying. It went on for at least 2 mos. My mother never would validate what happened and i made the decision not to be around her for many years until she was in her 90's and needed someone to manage her affairs and living arrangement in an assisted living then nursing home. I tried to speak other then and she still refused. I did the honest thing and took care of everything but our bond was never restored due her inability to say three words."I am sorry". you are absolutely correct that these things have to be validated. I am better now but I do not think I will ever be where I want to be.
I'm sorry you had to suffer that Teri. It's so challenging when people who are supposed to care about you deny your feelings. At that point you have to cut those people out of your life for the sake of your own mental health. Strength to you.
Thanks.I tried in my early 40's then again in my 60's but she would never say those words. That is all I was looking for but ...never happened. These women deserve so much more for what happened to them. I hope there are 2 or3 rep that will vote for this so it can finally be done for them.
I can speak as someone that was abused by a relative at 16 while my dad was in a VA hospital in Memphis dying. It went on for at least 2 mos. My mother never would validate what happened and i made the decision not to be around her for many years until she was in her 90's and needed someone to manage her affairs and living arrangement in an assisted living then nursing home. I tried to speak other then and she still refused. I did the honest thing and took care of everything but our bond was never restored due her inability to say three words."I am sorry". you are absolutely correct that these things have to be validated. I am better now but I do not think I will ever be where I want to be.
I'm sorry you had to suffer that Teri. It's so challenging when people who are supposed to care about you deny your feelings. At that point you have to cut those people out of your life for the sake of your own mental health. Strength to you.
Thanks.I tried in my early 40's then again in my 60's but she would never say those words. That is all I was looking for but ...never happened. These women deserve so much more for what happened to them. I hope there are 2 or3 rep that will vote for this so it can finally be done for them.