You know what's even worse, the ones who look down on you just because you stand up for yourself and tell you that you deserved it. And - that they don't care and are not going to do anything about it. And even worse than that are the ones who tell you to just "forgive" your tormenters. As if!
Thanks Walter. Each of my children were the victims of abuse, at least once as grade schoolers. Both times my reporting went ignored and worse, laughed away, by all of the so-called adults in the room, and I'm the school system. My oldest finally punched the head bully, when nothing I did was helping his little brother. That ended the youngest son's school bus abuse. Also, once our older son (age 9), after 3 months of keeping quiet from fear, cried to me that the boy across the street (a 6 year old) attempted to perform a lewd act on him aggressively and in front of our other son. Not one person helped us in the school system, nor in the young boy's family. My sons were clearly upset, so we had them see a counselor to be evaluated, while the parents across the street, laughed at my concern.
This kind of thing is so common and it's disgusting. There are groups that blame everyone else even as they commit these crimes in plain sight. We have to speak about it, unfortunately there's this social convention that we don't talk about who the true aggressors are in our culture. That has to be changed. I'm sorry your kids had to deal with that.
Both of my sons experienced similar issues. I also was a teacher at the time and went to a counselor meeting. The other teacher (my sons) kept saying things that did not match his personality. I finally pulled out a picture of him and she shockingly said “ that’s not who I am talking about!”. She did not even have her students learned 1/2 way through the school year.
Sure was. I quit teaching that year and went back to get my RN degree. Oddly teaching, nursing and police work share the same abuse of people having little respect for them. All public service jobs. Sad…
You know what's even worse, the ones who look down on you just because you stand up for yourself and tell you that you deserved it. And - that they don't care and are not going to do anything about it. And even worse than that are the ones who tell you to just "forgive" your tormenters. As if!
You're right. It gets kind of scary when we peel back the layers of all the injustices and abuses we're expected to endure in the US.
Thanks Walter. Each of my children were the victims of abuse, at least once as grade schoolers. Both times my reporting went ignored and worse, laughed away, by all of the so-called adults in the room, and I'm the school system. My oldest finally punched the head bully, when nothing I did was helping his little brother. That ended the youngest son's school bus abuse. Also, once our older son (age 9), after 3 months of keeping quiet from fear, cried to me that the boy across the street (a 6 year old) attempted to perform a lewd act on him aggressively and in front of our other son. Not one person helped us in the school system, nor in the young boy's family. My sons were clearly upset, so we had them see a counselor to be evaluated, while the parents across the street, laughed at my concern.
This kind of thing is so common and it's disgusting. There are groups that blame everyone else even as they commit these crimes in plain sight. We have to speak about it, unfortunately there's this social convention that we don't talk about who the true aggressors are in our culture. That has to be changed. I'm sorry your kids had to deal with that.
Thanks. It's maddening.
In*the school system
Excellent post!!!! Failure to stand for justice is siding with the oppressors.
We are enthusiastic together. We must stand against bullying and wrong wherever abd whomever perpetrators. Thanks Walter for calling this out.
Thanks Jo! A lot of times otherwise good people talk themselves out of the strong language we need. I appreciate your kind words!
I appreciate your truth!
Your pain is valid... your cousin seemed like an abusive weenie... moral absolutism and justice are very infrequently compatible.
Both of my sons experienced similar issues. I also was a teacher at the time and went to a counselor meeting. The other teacher (my sons) kept saying things that did not match his personality. I finally pulled out a picture of him and she shockingly said “ that’s not who I am talking about!”. She did not even have her students learned 1/2 way through the school year.
Uff… that’s extremely disconcerting.
Sure was. I quit teaching that year and went back to get my RN degree. Oddly teaching, nursing and police work share the same abuse of people having little respect for them. All public service jobs. Sad…
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